Mario,
As with Oren,I don't find your music particularly sad either,just relaxing.
I personally have never experienced lounge music in a gritty,nasty enviroment,but I have had my share of experiencing the types of places that Oren is speaking of,which is why I rarely go out to bars anymore.
I am really big on coffee house gigs though,as I've played them and mostly-I've enjoyed being in the audience,as generally,people are there for the music alone-intently absorbing the performance,as supposed to just congregating to a place to chit chat & drink themselves stupid.
I'm more of a fan of what I like to call "Art Deco" music,because that retro bossanova stuff really has a profound impact on me.
I was actually thinking about infusing that style with electronic music & as soon as I get my Alesis Ion-I'm going to get cracking on it right away!
Your guitar performances are always a pleasure.
Cheers,
Thom